Being a single mom is not an easy job, especially when it comes to re-entering the dating field.
I always dread the “first date” because I always feel stricken with panic. Will he even want a 2nd date? Will he meet my expectations? Will a guy want to date me with kids? Will he really learn to love and care for my children? When should the kids meet him? Will the kids like him? Does he have kids? Will everyone like each other? And do I even have the time to date? Or what if I never find somebody? The list goes on and on. With so many things to consider it really can leave me feeling anxious and unsure.
Upon meeting a date, one anxious thought turns into another and before I know it I experience horrible anxiety, my heart beats fast, I get so flustered and light headed and my breathing speeds up. My hands get so sweaty and I know my voice is trembling with each word I speak, there have even been times where I’ve even had to excuse myself and quickly exit to the washroom to try and calm myself down.
I thought with the more dates I had it would eventually get easier, but it hasn’t. These anxiety attacks have been very difficult to deal with. However, I’m now at a point where I really want to do something about it. I want to appear much more relaxed on my dates and not worry so much about the “big” picture but just take it one step at a time and have a little fun. I am hopeful that I can beat this anxiety and experience a good time on dates again!
August 31st, 2010 at 3:59 pm
I’ve suffered from anxiety since I was a small child. I’m not sure why some people do while others don’t, I guess it’s just genetics or how we were raised maybe. I have read thousands of articles about anxiety and panic attacks. I just wanted to say thank you for this here article as I have never heard of this or thought about it this way before.